Dear Ones,

After last Sunday’s service honoring the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), I was asked to publish some kind of primer on LGBTQ+ language. I know there’s a lot to remember – and it can be confusing as terms are being added or changed all the time. I’ll work on a longer handout, but here are a few basics:

“LGBTQ+” = Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Plus

“Plus” = Includes, but is not limited to:

Intersex = Someone whose body in some way does not conform to the “male” or “female” standard. This can be obvious at birth, but may not be.

Pansexual = A person sexually/romantically attracted to all genders

Nonbinary = A person who identifies as neither male nor female, but not “on the binary” (see also: gender queer)

Asexual (and Demisexual) = A person who is not interested in sex. (Demi – a person who is okay with sex if their partner is interested.)

Aromantic = A person who simply doesn’t “fall in love,” not interested in romantic love.

A few film recommendations, for your viewing pleasure:

“Disclosure” (2020) is a documentary which features transgender people talking about their journeys in their own voices. (available on Netflix)

“Paris is Burning” (1990) is a documentary focusing on the drag scene in 1980’s/1990’s New York City, with drag balls and competitions. (available on Netflix)

“Pose” (2018-2021) Contemporary TV series based on the drag scene featured in “Paris is Burning.” Billy Porter, who starred as Lola in “Kinky Boots” on Broadway stars. Notably, several episodes are directed by transgender activist Janet Mock, and many transgender actors are featured. (available on Netflix)

In the new year we’ll find a time to show the excellent National Geographic documentary, “Gender Revolution,” again.

Blessings of gratitude,
Rev. Lori